My dear man,
There was a generational change happening from 2000 to 2014. This was the best time to solve the Kashmir issue. The time and place for that is long gone.
The newer generation of diplomats and intellectuals joining in now are people born post 1990s. They have seen only a liberalised and prosperous India. This generation is not witness to the wars of old, but the growing India of economics and military. Add to this, the fact that, the diplomats at senior levels have been through the terrorism of the 90s and the Kargil episode, you will understand they are not the conservative lot of old.
Priorities have also changed. Pakistan is no longer seen as a major opponent, but as a nuisance which needs to be sorted. The entire focus of the governments of that time were on the economy and any measures to avoid conflict. Then the objective was to control Kashmir and not worry about PoK except through diplomatic channels. Today, the belief has set in for the need to bleed Pakistan. This is what you are seeing over the past 5 years. The discussion no longer is about controlling our part of Kashmir, but take the entire area as it was under Hari Singh. The reason for this is multi-fold and beyond the scope of this reply.
But, if you think our strategy to take Kashmir is to show Pakistan its place, then you have sorely missed the forest for the trees.